She talks about how it still felt like yesterday and how much she misses and loves him. She also hopes with whatever she is doing now, that he is proud of her.
The neuroscientist and author David Eagleman notes that there have been three fatalities. When the body stops working is the first. When the body is buried, the second occurs. When your name is called for the final time, the third occurs later.
We, the ones left behind, must make an effort to prevent this final death. We may experience a sense of helplessness and uncertainty after the death of a loved one. It’s both natural and incredibly challenging. However, that is where we can focus our efforts in order to stop that third death from ever happening. By paying tribute to the deceased person’s memory, we can take charge of our grief and use it for good.
What then can you and your family do to preserve the memories of a loved one?
1. Contribute in their honor
You can create a donation or a charitable organization in honor of your loved one in a number of ways.
Find a cause they had a passion for, and think of a way to turn it into a charitable endeavor that will keep their memory alive in the neighborhood every year. Amy Morin, a certified psychotherapist, says that starting a charity is a wonderful way to remember your loved one. It doesn’t need to be enormous. You could merely award a modest scholarship in your loved one’s honor. You could even organize a charity event every year with your loved ones and friends.
2. Prepare their preferred cuisine
Food is a great way to connect with others and a wonderful way to honor the memory of someone. Consuming the same foods that your loved one did is a potent way to connect with them and a simple way to talk about them with your family and friends. It doesn’t matter if you learn to make their favorite holiday recipe from scratch or just occasionally indulge in their favorite candy. “Decide to eat their favorite foods occasionally, whether your loved one enjoyed pizza or they really liked Grandma’s roasted potatoes,” advises Morin. “You can either do this on your own or you can sit down and eat with friends and family.”